As many of you who follow me on Twitter or Instagram may have noticed, Patrick (my fiance) and I have been in the process of moving for the last two weeks. Let’s just say that it has been a very slow, exhausting adventure.
We are still nowhere near being completely unpacked, but the new place is finally feeling a little bit more like home, so I thought I would share with you all some of the things I’ve learned throughout this process.
First, I’d like to say sorry to you all! I know I have been AWOL for the last few weeks and for that I seriously owe you. I promise I’ll update you all on some of the other things happening in my life soon! But first let’s get to sharing.
1. Moving sucks.
As I am sure most of you already know, moving is literally the worst. In the last six years, I have had to move ten times. Thanks for that one, college. Thankfully, we were in our previous place for about two years (I moved in 6 months later after graduating), but it still felt WAY too soon to be packing everything back up again.
2. Do yourself a favor, and get rid of things you don’t wear, use, like, etc.
Seriously. Get rid of things as you don’t need them – don’t just pile them in a corner, closet, or garage and wait to go through them until you’re trying to pack. I guarantee that you will hate yourself for having to go through that box of sweaters from high school that you never wear while simultaneously trying to pack things you actually care about.
Every six months make a point to go through your closet, dresser, closets, etc. and put things in a box that you haven’t worn or used during that time. If they’re seasonal items, store them until you need them. If you haven’t used it at all, and have forgotten you had it then it’s time to say goodbye. You’ll thank yourself later. Plus, your closet will appreciate the extra room.
3. Label everything. And I truly mean EVERYTHING.
I cannot stress this enough. Because we didn’t move in the course of two days, but rather slowly over two weeks, I didn’t feel the need to label all of our boxes and totes. We were only taking a few at a time, so I told myself “Shyanne, you’ll totally remember what’s in this – labeling it will just take time you don’t have.”
Want to know a secret? I WAS WRONG. Now, as we try to unpack the mounds of stuff in our garage and house, I am realizing just how wrong I really was. Let’s just say that trying to find flour for baking a pie on Thanksgiving involved digging through four boxes, multiple cabinets, and wasting 30 minutes. Labels will save you. Labels are life.
4. Moving takes a LOT of patience.
Patience is a virtue. One that has tested me on many occasions and one that I have not yet fully mastered. Moving is exhausting. It will take patience to pack your things, filter through everything, get rid of what you don’t need/want/use, and it will surely require a lot of patience with yourself and with others.
Moving can cause a lot of strain on a relationship – you’re tired, sore, hungry, and just plain exhausted the large majority of the time. You would’ve packed something differently than your spouse/roommate/partner and sometimes, it is enough to drive you insane. I am a perfectionist. I know this about myself and do my best to control that. However, I tend to be very particular about the way I like to do things, and that doesn’t always bode well for the maintenance of my relationships.
When you get overwhelmed, tired, and frustrated (which I guarantee, you will) – take a step back, breathe deep, and tell the person you’re with that you love them. Thank them for what they’re doing, for helping to move, and remind yourself that the craziness will not last forever.
Honestly, I could keep on going with the things I’ve learned through this process, but I don’t want to bore you with the details so I’ll leave you with this: Moving sucks. It will be over soon. You can do it.
P.S. Please, for the love of God, clean behind/under your appliances. It gets really gross. You don’t want to see the pictures. Trust me.